Being in love
Many people go into relationships for feelings of fondness with one another and really expect those feelings to carry them through the day to day as a couple. Nonetheless, being in love may not mean staying in love. As anyone who has ever been in a relationship knows, staying in love is the most difficult part of sharing space with a partner.
Staying in love
In relationships, staying in love through it all is quite a venture. Deciding to work on the issues that arise (and actually doing ALL the work), instead of giving up, is one of the most tenacious tasks of being in a relationship. Putting in the energy and time that are needed to overcome the roadblocks and challenges on the path of the couple, which could award the relationship longer and better time ahead, is a decision to be made on a regular basis, not something that comes naturally as a result of being in love.
What really keeps a relationship going is not love; it’s commitment. When the partners are committed to one another and to the relationship, they will be committed to finding the solutions to their problems and giving these the time they need to work in favor of themselves and the relationship. When the commitment has stopped, it must be reinstated; otherwise, the relationship is done.
Love is love and it can mutate or cease. Love can be a great motivator of commitment to see things through among lovers. But love without commitment--to work on bettering each individual within the relationship and strengthening the union-- is bound to drift, even if love is still felt.